Second Ceremony is a pathway and guide to help you dissolve a marriage without destroying the kids. Second Ceremony is a pause. It’s an invitation to take a breath and look at things from a new perspective. Divorce is a big unknown, and this is a chance to bring some order and safety into the chaos.
Second Ceremony gives you the tools you need to honor the end of a marriage using ritual and ceremony.
Second Ceremony is a place to find support and hope in reading others’ divorce stories. You are also encouraged to share your story—how you moved through the process and, if you have kids, what happened with them.
We feel that sharing your story is a ritual—a way of documenting one of the most significant events of your life. It is also an amazing way for you to help other families in crisis. If someone can connect with your story and come away with a sense of hope that it is possible to get to the other side, it can be tremendously theraputic.
How does it work?
In the midst of a crisis, it is hard to know what to do. Second Ceremony gives you a set of tools to use, like dialing Divorce-911. The rituals and ceremonies we teach you relieve stress immediately. The process slows down time and eases the overwhelming pain. It doesn’t take the pain away, but it lessens its overall hold on you, your children, your friends, family, and your ex- or soon-to-be ex-partner.
It relieves pressure so that you can breathe a little more easily.
What do I do?
To start, we recommend visiting our Ceremonies and Ritual page. You will find a few activities that you can try immediately with your family, on your own, or with your partner to ease the dissolution.
You can also reach out to me directly with a private note and I can guide you to the ceremony that would be best. We can also work to customize one for your situation. Your information is secure and confidential.
Why do I ask you to share your stories?
I know what it’s like to feel isolated and alone in painful situations; I’ve been there. One of the most frequent ways I have successfully been lifted out of pain has been to hear others share experience, strength and hope. A big part of this site is sharing with one another. By sharing the struggle, the pain and the rising out of it all we can feel a connection and a sense of belonging that drives out the isolation and loneliness.
Who am I?
I have been married and divorced three times, and grew up in a house with parents that divorced in what seemed like a never-ending and dramatic way. These experiences along with much self-improvement work have brought me to a distinct understanding of divorce and our children. Read more of my story on the My Stories page.
Some of the stories on this site are included in a book I am writing about children and divorce. With the permission of those included, the book weaves personal stories into research and ritual, and you will find more information about the book and how you can help in the near future.
Overall, my hope is that you will find solace in the stories shared here, and will share yours to give others hope in their hopelessness.